Questions to consider:
1. How are your "people skills"?
2. Do you see others who are not part of your social network?
3. Are you connecting with people using online social media (e.g. "Facebook") or are using social media as a substitute for connecting?
4. Do you start where people are in their lives or do you start with them where you are?
5. Are you able to build rapport with others?
Some Resources:
Caring Pastors, Caring People - Marvin McMickle
Community Ministry, Carl S. Dudley
Failure of Nerve: Leadership in the Age of the Quick Fix, Edwin Friedman
I Once Was Lost: What Postmodern Skeptics Taught Us about Their Path to Jesus, Don Everts and Dough Schaupp
Just Listen: Discover the Secret to Getting Through to Absolutely Anyone, Mark Goulston
Listening and Caring Skills, John Savage
Making Friends, Making Disciples: Growing Your Church Through Authentic Relationships, Lee Spitzer
Servant Leadership, Robert K. Greenleaf
The Speed of Trust, Stephen M. R. Covey
Theology as Big as the City, Ray Bakke