Questions to consider:

1. How are your "people skills"?

2. Do you see others who are not part of your social network?

3. Are you connecting with people using online social media (e.g. "Facebook") or are using social media as a substitute for connecting?

4. Do you start where people are in their lives or do you start with them where you are?

5. Are you able to build rapport with others?

Some Resources:

Caring Pastors, Caring People - Marvin McMickle

Community Ministry, Carl S. Dudley

Failure of Nerve: Leadership in the Age of the Quick Fix, Edwin Friedman

I Once Was Lost: What Postmodern Skeptics Taught Us about Their Path to Jesus, Don Everts and Dough Schaupp

Just Listen: Discover the Secret to Getting Through to Absolutely Anyone, Mark Goulston

Listening and Caring Skills, John Savage

Making Friends, Making Disciples: Growing Your Church Through Authentic Relationships, Lee Spitzer

Servant Leadership, Robert K. Greenleaf

The Speed of Trust, Stephen M. R. Covey

Theology as Big as the City, Ray Bakke